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%COMPULSIVE PREOCCUPATION CONTROL INTIMACY LOVE SEX 960818

     People  who  are preoccupied with issues  of  control
fear lovers'  desires for intimacy  and  the pleasures and
knowledge  which  come with open and honest intimacy---for
such  desires,  pleasures and knowledge are deadly threats
to  the  collusive paradigm of people who are  preoccupied
with issues of control.

     When true  lovers  respond with  integrity  to  their
mutual   desires  for  intimacy  and  the  pleasures   and
knowledge  which come with open and honest  intimacy---the
lovers  gain  insights  into the nature of  the  collusive
games of mutual self deception of addictive people who are
preoccupied with issues of control.

     People who  are  preoccupied with issues  of  control
respond to the threats of expanded insights and  knowledge
on the part of true lovers --- by collusively representing
the unconventional  behaviors of true lovers as threats to
all   that   is:    respectable,     decent,      orderly,
traditional, conventional,  good,  moral, ethical, lawful,
legal,   and Godly.  It is dangerous to let people fall in
love  without  proper  guidance  and  controls!     People
who  are  truly falling  in  love do unconventional things
and   they   cannot   be  trusted  to   behave   properly!
Collusive  ways are found  to put boundaries  around  what
people  who are truly falling in love  are  permitted   to
do---and  if   they   violate  those boundaries  they  are
alienated from the participants in the collusive  rituals-
--and  treated as  evil  people.     The collusive  people
with  arrogant  self-righteousness  look down  upon  those
whom they have alienated from themselves. The  true lovers
pray  that  God may forgive the alienations for they  know
not what they do---for they are participants in  collusive
games of mutual self deception.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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