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     In  our  search for understanding,  manipulation  and
control  we often analyze objects,  living  creatures  and
plants.     Not  so often do we search  for  personal  and
communal integrity through an understanding of the various
aspects of and elements within our personal relationships.
Rarely  do  we seek to even recognize the web  of  aspects
which  make  up our personal relationships---and  what  we
might  do  to  improve our personal relationships  in  the
direction  of increased enjoyment of personal and communal
integrity.

     The  following phrases at least hint at the  richness
of the multitude of aspects which there are in healthy and
unhealthy  personal relationships.   In each  instance  we
need  to  consider  both what is present  and  what  might
properly be present, but is absent.   The latter is harder
to consider in any helpful way for a variety of reasons.

 1.  Assumptions about & attitudes towards each other.
 2.  Desires, hopes & fears pertaining to each other.
 3.  Expectations pertaining to each other.
 5.  What we have done and/or plan to do together.
 6.  How we regard each of the above.
 7.  How others regard each of the above about us.
 8.  Others' assumptions & attitudes regarding us.
 9.  Others'   desires,   hopes  &  fears  regarding   us.
10.  Other's expectations pertaining to them/us. 11.  What
we  have  done and/or plan to do  with  others.   12.  How
others regard each of the above about all of us.

     Each of the  above pertain to us  as individuals,  in
pairs,   in  small  groups,  in  larger  groups,   and  in
communities.     "Us"   means  different  things  in  each
instance.    "Others"   means  different  things  in  each
instance.  The above is just a beginning.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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