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 %NEGOTIATE TERMS PERSONAL RELATION INTIMACY FRIEND+960326
  %TACIT OVERT DEVELOPMENT REVEAL ATTITUDES BELIEFS+960326
 %DESIRES INTENTIONS GOALS IDEALS VALUES TERMS WILL+960326
 %CHANGE GROWTH ATTRACT COURTSHIP FALLING LOVE WANT+960326
%OUTLOOK PERSPECTIVE INVOLVE INTIMATE INTEGRITY GOD+960326
%YOUNG ADOLESCENT SEXUAL MARRIAGE OPEN HONESTY EVIL 960326

     Personal  relationships develop through  negotiations
(tacit or overt)  of the terms for the development of  the
relationships.

     People's  behaviors  and dialogue  reveal  attitudes,
beliefs,  desires, intentions, goals,  ideals,  values and
much  more---in  terms  of which they may or  may  not  be
willing  to  become  more involved in  friendships  and/or
intimate  relationships.   Part of the negotiation process
is the process of changing one's own attitudes,   beliefs,
desires, intentions, goals, ideals, values and outlooks---
in  order  to  attract an  attractive  other  person  into
intimacy.    If one is unwilling to  change---one  is  not
likely to become involved in any intimate relationship. If
one is too willing to change  in  ways which lack personal
integrity---one   is   likely  to   become   involved   in
destructive "intimate" relationships.

     Young  people  need to be taught and to learn how  to
enter  into  the negotiations that  are essential  to  the
development  of healthy personal relationships  which  are
the foundation of personal and communal integrity.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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