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 %INTEGRATIVE INTIMACY BALANCE POWER DESIRE CONTROL 960320

     Intimate  personal  relationships are unlikely to  be
integrative unless:

     1.  There  is balance as regards the relative amounts
of various kinds  of  power  on  the  part  of  all of the
participants:  physical,  economic, political,  spiritual,
psychological,  intellectual,  educational,  etc.   In the
absence   of  balance  in  regards  to  power  there   are
significant  risks and/or fears in regards to the abuse of
power.

     2.  There  is  balance  as regards  to  the  relative
amounts  of  vulnerability  on  the  part  of  all of  the
participants.     Vulnerability   may  pertain   to   past
histories,  to present weaknesses,  to minority status, to
ignorance, to mental capacity, to prejudice, etc.

     3.  There  is  mutuality as regards  the  levels  and
kinds of intimacy desired by all of the participants.

     4.  There is a profound level of dedication to act in
ways which will demonstrate, invite and encourage openness
and honesty on the part of all of the participants.

     5.  All participants are actively seeking to  promote
both personal and communal integrity in all that they do.

     6.  None of  participants are  preoccupied with being
better than others or with issues of control.

     7.  None of the participants are  prone to engage  in
manipulative, coercive and/or violent behaviors.

     8.  None  of the participants are inclined to  efface
themselves and play subservient roles all of the time.

     9.  None  of the participants are prone to engage  in
patterns of thoughts,  assumptions,  attitudes,   feelings
and  intentions  which are characteristic of  addicts  and
their codependent supporters.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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