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%ESSENTIAL DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SELF POSSESSION BOUND+960320
%TROUBLE DOUBLE BIND PRISONS ENSLAVEMENT ADDICTIONS 960320

     Often  we  generate TROUBLE for  ourselves  and  each
other  because  we  do not keep  track  of  the  ESSENTIAL
DIFFERENCES  between our SELF and  our  POSSESSIONS.    We
often  fail  to maintain a clear BOUNDARY between  WHO  we
are, and WHAT we HAVE;  OR between who we are, and what we
DO; OR  between who we are, and what we APPEAR to be.

     When we fail to MAINTAIN a clear BOUNDARY between who
we  are and the other THINGS which are usually  ASSOCIATED
with  us---we end up carrying around a lot of other THINGS
which are not essential to our being true to ourselves and
each other---much as the "ancient mariner"  carried around
the DEAD ALBATROSS hung around his neck.   Thus we come to
think  of our BURDENS as essential parts of us and  cannot
understand  why we are always so tired.    When we  cannot
let  go  of our tiring burdens because we CANNOT TELL  the
difference  between  our essential selves  and  our  heavy
burdens---we  are  in  REAL TROUBLE.    We  need  to  TELL
ourselves and each other what our burdens are and to learn
to LET GO of our non-essential THINGS which are BURDENS to
us but which we still carry around with us as if they were
essential parts of our being who we are.

     Often  we  generate  TROUBLE for ourselves  and  each
other when we require each other to carry  around  burdens
which are not essential to our being true to ourselves and
each  other.     We confuse each other by  requiring  each
other to pretend  that our  possessions  (things,   ideas,
ideals,  doctrines,  rituals, habits,  etc)  are essential
parts of our being true to ourselves and each other---when
they  are  artificial  additions  which we can let  go  of
whenever we chose to let go of them.   We cannot tell that
we  can let go of them until we  tell each other about our
experiences of relief we do let go of them.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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