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 %EQUANIMITY PEACE SELF ESTEEM SATISFACTION REFLECT 951003

     We may seek to achieve equanimity, peace, self esteem
and self satisfaction in a number of reflexive ways:

     1.  Live  in  keeping with our  ideals,   values  and
goals.

     2.  Change our ideals,  values and goals so that they
correspond to how we live.

     3.  Change our friends so that their ideals,   values
and goals are congruent with our own and with how we live.

     4.  Modify  our  self  perceptions so  that  we  will
perceive  ourselves  as having lived in keeping  with  our
ideals and values.

     5.  Associate  with  people who help us  to  perceive
ourselves  in  the  ways  in which  we  want  to  perceive
ourselves.

     6.  Deceive  others so that they will perceive us  as
we  want them to perceive us---and echo our  desired  self
perceptions.

     7.  Coerce  others so that they will affirm us as  we
want  them  to  affirm  us---and  echo  our  desired  self
perceptions.

     8.  Participate  with  others in collusive  games  of
mutual  self  deception---within  which  we  all  perceive
ourselves  and  each other in keeping with  the  concealed
rules of our dishonest games.

     9.  Shut down our perceptions so that we will not  be
troubled by disturbing situations.

     10. Give up all ideals, values and goals.

     Each  of the above ways of seeking  equanimity  bears
its own kind of fruit---which we may or may not be willing
to recognize, name, describe, and talk about.    We may or
may not  learn from our experiences in seeking  equanimity
in  each  of  the  above  kinds  of  ways---or  from   our
experiences in watching other people seeking equanimity in
each of the above kinds of ways.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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