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   %UNHEALTHY ASPECTS GUILT SHAME ALIENATION REJECT+950810
   %RIDICULE CONDEMN JUDGMENTAL LEGALISM PERFECTION 950810

     The  following  often comprise aspects of  guilt  and
shame---in HEALTHY responses to the regrettable past:

     1.  Open  and  honest recognition  of  disintegrative
consequences which  have developed from  past:  attitudes,
assumptions,  beliefs,  convictions, perceptions,  reason,
logic, decision and actions.

     2.  Open,   honest and appropriate regret for what is
past.

     3.  Appropriate apologies for past contributions made
to disintegrative consequences.

     4.  Where    possible---amends    which    lead    to
reconciliation  and  other forms of personal and  communal
integration.

     5.  Open and honest learning from past mistakes.

     6.  Sharing  of  what  has  been  learned  from  past
mistakes.

     In  addition  to  the above,  the  following  are  in
contrast often associated with UN-HEALTHY guilt and shame:

     1.  Alienation,    rejection,   excommunication   and
ridicule of  self  by others and/or self, because  of  the
past.

     2.  Blockage of learning from past mistakes.

     3.  Blockage   of   communications   regarding   past
mistakes.

     4.  Personal  and  communal  disintegration  due   to
alienation,   rejection,   excommunication,  ridicule  and
blockages---which   are   justified  in  terms  of   past:
attitudes, assumptions, beliefs, convictions, perceptions,
reason, logic, decisions,  actions and mistakes pertaining
to self.

     5.  An inability to grow to full personal  potential,
because of past baggage which is not let go.

     6.  An  inability  to  envision future  personal  and
communal integrity, because of some regretted  aspects  of
the past.

     7.  Fixation  upon  the regretted past  and  all  the
consequences tied  to it, with no hope of  letting  go  of
them.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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