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  %COST RISK REDUCE DEFENSIVE INSECURITY VULNERABLE+950228
   %TRUST INTIMACY SEXUALITY INTEGRITY HONESTY EVIL 950228

     To  the  defensive  insecure person it  seems  always
reasonable  to take steps to reduce risk and move  towards
invulnerability.    It always seems reasonable because the
defensive  insecure person cannot conceive the possibility
that  true  security entails  healthy  vulnerability---and
cannot  conceive the high cost of always trying to  reduce
risk.

     Working  to  promote trust is often less costly  than
working to reduce risk.

     Always being defensive usually reduces security.

     Defensive  people rarely work to promote trust  which
is the key to real security.

     Risk  reduction and invulnerability are not the  keys
to security.

     Dishonest  people  who  compulsively  play  collusive
games of mutual self deception make it impossible for each
other  to understand how to enjoy true  security,   trust,
risk and healthy vulnerability.

     To  the  extent  that  people  are  preoccupied  with
reducing   risk,   achieving  invulnerability,   defending
themselves  and manipulating others---to that extent those
people are unable  to  enjoy:  life,  intimacy, sexuality,
security,    fulfillment,    trust,   risk   and   healthy
vulnerability.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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