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%PREOCCUPIED ISSUES SALVATION ACCEPTABLE SAVED LOVE+941217
 %CONFORMITY PERFECTION STANDARDS PERSONAL COMMUNAL+941217
  %INTEGRITY INSECURE VULNERABLE DEFENSIVE VIOLENCE 941217

     Insecure  people  are often compulsively  preoccupied
with  issues  pertaining  to  personal  acceptability  and
salvation.

     1.  Who is accepted and who is not saved?

     2.  Who is not accepted and who is saved?

     3.  Are they themselves accepted and who is saved?

     4.  Are their enemies accepted and who is saved?

     5.  Are their friends, loved ones, accepted and
   saved?

     6.  What are the means to acceptability and
   salvation?

     7.  What leads to rejection and damnation?

     8.  Can one be permanently accepted and saved?

     9.  Can one be permanently rejected and dammed?

    10.  Can one fall from acceptability and salvation?

    11.  What is the price for acceptability and
   salvation?

12.  Who is in control of acceptability and salvation?

     People  who enjoy true security known as the  freedom
to be safely vulnerable  and without  powers  of  being in
control---are   not  often  preoccupied  with  the   above
questions.     To  them  the  questions  seem   pointless,
needless,   and  irrelevant  to  living healthy  lives  of
personal and communal integrity.  Such healthy people have
better ways to  spend  their  time  and energy,  than with
questions.

     We  will  do well to understand the manner  in  which
preoccupations  with  conformity as a  means  to  personal
acceptability   and  salvation---lead  to   personal   and
communal disintegration.

     Insecure  people who are preoccupied with  conformity
never   rest secure with any particular set  of  standards
for  being  accepted/saved;  for they are insecure because
they have  never experienced any secure grounds for  being
accepted  when  they  have been  true  to  themselves  and
others.     They are always trying to perfect  themselves;
and  this  must  include  perfecting  their  standards  of
acceptability---and  so perfecting the standards by  which
other people  can  make  them rejectable.   Their paradigm
leads naturally to  greater  and  greater probabilities of
people   being  rejected,    excommunicated,    alienated,
estranged   and  damned  due to the  lack   of  true love,
forgiveness,   reconciliation and conflict  resolution  in
their community.

     Conformity  does  not  form a  sound  foundation  for
personal  and communal integrity,  because the people  who
are  preoccupied  with conformity are distracted from  all
that makes for personal and communal integrity;  and often
they regard  all  that  makes  for  personal  and communal
integrity as  essentially  threatening  to the survival of
them  as  persons;  because  "all  that"   threatens   the
survival of their dishonest means to salvation.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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