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  %TRUE JOY FULFILLMENT SATISFACTION PLEASURE HAPPY+941216
   %HEALTHY MUTUAL VULNERABILITY IMAGE VISION DREAM+941216
 %REPRESS INHIBIT PROHIBIT REPRESS CONTROL DISCIPLE 941216

     True  joy,  fulfillment,  satisfaction,  pleasure and
happiness entail mutual vulnerability and risks.

     Insecure people  seek  to  be in control, they cannot
tolerate true:  joy, fulfillment, satisfaction,  pleasure,
and  happiness---or  the mutual  vulnerability  and  risks
which they entail; because:

     1.  The reservation of all possible joy, fulfillment,
satisfaction, pleasure and happiness to be used as rewards
for    conformal    behavior---improves  dominant people's
power and their opportunities  to  exercise  control  over
other   people's:    perceptions,   feelings,    thoughts,
dialogue, decisions, actions, guilt and shame.

     2.  The  inhibition of mutual  vulnerability  reduces
the  supply of true:   joy,   fulfillment,   satisfaction,
pleasure and happiness---making  people  willing  to pay a
high  price  for  them  in terms  of  conformal  behavior;
including the prices of the sacrifice of honesty, personal
integrity and  communal  integrity,  and the loss of  true
security enjoyed as the freedom to be safely vulnerable.

     3.  Insecure    people   cannot   think   about   the
possibilities of mutual healthy vulnerability or about the
risks   of  the  loss  of control  which  is  entailed  in
mutual healthy vulnerability---it is unthinkable,   taboo,
inexpressible.

     4.  True images, visions and dreams of mutual healthy
vulnerability are absent from many people's lives:  due to
a lack of  real  experiences  which  have  entailed mutual
healthy  vulnerability.   If  one has always lived  in  an
addictive, manipulative, coercive, dishonest society---one
may never have experienced  or witnessed instances of true
mutual  healthy  vulnerability;  and cannot  have  images,
visions or dreams  of  such a strange phenomena.  They may
be beyond imagination and desire.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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