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 %DISCOURAGE REPRESS INHIBIT VULNERABLE SAFE SECURE+941204
%DISINTEGRATION DEFENSIVE POSTURE FEAR VIOLENCE SIN+941204
 %HONEST DECEPTION INTIMATE RELATE SEX VIOLENCE WAR 941204

     Inhibiting,   depressing   and  discouraging  healthy
vulnerability in intimate relationships leads to  personal
and communal disintegration.

     When we find that we cannot be safely  vulnerable  in
open and honest relationships which are secure---we  shift
from   taking   healthy   risks   in   vulnerable   honest
relationships,  to taking up unhealthy defensive  postures
which  encourage the escalation  of dishonesty,  fears and
defensive behaviors which become coercive and violent.

     If  we  are  constantly  in  fear  that  we  will  be
rejected, alienated, estranged and excommunicated from the
community which means the most to us, and perhaps from all
communities  which mean anything to us---we are  bound  to
become violently defensive.

     If we are not familiar with love which casts out such
destructive  fears---we are bound to be dominated by  hate
which nurtures such destructive fears.

     When we are fearful, full of fear, we are unlikely to
want to take the healthy risks which are  part in open and
honest  conflict  resolution.  Instead,  we are  prone  to
encourage  each  other  to  avoid  the  risks  of  healthy
conflict   resolution;  and  choose  instead the   certain
disintegration  which comes with constantly being  fearful
in defensive postures and behaviors which are dominated by
depersonalizing manipulations,  coercion, violence, anger,
resentment, and revenge.

     When  we  adopt  defensive   postures  and  behaviors
dominated   by  depersonalizing manipulations,   coercion,
violence,  anger, resentment,  and revenge---we treat each
other  as  objects of fear;  rather than as  brothers  and
sisters  in  God's Family wherein we might  find  meaning,
fulfillment  and  satisfaction  through  open  and  honest
dialogue.

     When we treat each other as objects of fear we become
dominated  by  objective paradigms which objectify  people
and  intimate  relationships---and  we become dominated by
technocrats,  addicts and their codependent supporters who
fear losing what little sympathy they have on the part  of
technocrats and addicts.

     When   technocrats,   addicts  and  technocrats   are
dominant,  the  educational  system  becomes dominated  by
teachers and professors who are technocrats.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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