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    %DENIAL DENY AVOID PREVENT PUNISH TABOO LAW SIN+941108
    %AFFIRM OFFER ENCOURAGE REWARD FORGIVE PARADIGM+941108
    %GIVE GIFT ACCEPT LOVE AFFECTION SECURITY TRUST+941108
    %ROOT CAUSE EFFECT SOURCE CONFLICT VIOLENCE WAR 941108

Many  of our conflicts are rooted in paradigms which
focus attention upon:

     DENIALS  AVOIDANCE    PREVENTION   PUNISHMENTS

     TABOOS   LEGALISMS    CONTROLS     TECHNOLOGIES

     SINS     ALIENATIONS  MORALITY     EXCOMMUNICATIONS

     LAWS     AUTHORITY    PERFECTION   POWER

     The usual result of focusing attention upon the above
as centers  of  negativity---is a  negative  response  and
leads to the escalation of conflict  in reciprocal denials
and attempts to eliminate negativity  through  the use  of
more negativity. Negativity breeds negativity in a vicious
cycle which often grows geometrically-exponentially.

     The  resolution of a conflict is often facilitated by
a paradigm which focuses positive attention upon:

     AFFIRMATIONS  BALANCE      HEALING     ENCOURAGEMENT

     KINDNESS      AFFECTION    RELAXATION  ACCEPTANCE

     GIFTS         FORGIVENESS  DIALOGUE    LISTENING

     SECURITY      CHILDREN     TOLERANCE   RESPONSIVENESS

     HEART         HONESTY      INTEGRITY   SIMPLICITY

     We  need  to take time to recognize,  take to  heart,
to  name,   to  articulate  and  to talk  about  what  our
experiences   indicate  are the  typical  consequences  of
operating in terms of  the contrasting paradigms which the
above comments point to.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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