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%ADDICTIVE CODEPENDENT REACTIONS PUSH BUTTONS FACES+941014
%RESPONSIBILITY PREDICTABLE CONFORMITY CONTROL RULE+941014
   %HONOR RECOGNIZE CREATIVE PROPHETS TRUTH HONESTY 941014

     Addiction and codependency are two faces of one coin.
Addicts and codependents seek security in conformity,  but
are  usually  at  odds  with  each  other  in  regards  to
conformity to what set of standards, rules or rulers. They
are   embarrassed  and  made to feel insecure   by   truly
creative  people  who respond  thoughtfully and  honestly;
being   true   to  themselves  and  other,    rather  than
reacting thoughtlessly    and  collusively  in attempts to
push  people's "buttons".   Addicts and  codependents  can
understand each other   and  accommodate  to  each   other
in    chaotically  dysfunctional  ways;  but  they  cannot
understand or work with  people  of integrity who are true
to themselves  and to each other.

     Truly  creative  prophets who speak the truth  openly
and honestly find it difficult to gain honor  in their own
country,   much  less their own state,  county,   city  or
church---especially  if  their  neighbors are  fixated  in
keeping with the preoccupations of  collusive  addicts and
their  codependent  supporters.   Honor is  almost  always
bestowed  in  terms  of traditional  paradigms  which  are
comfortable  and  comforting  to many people.    Honor  is
rarely  bestowed promptly    upon  truly  creative  people
who   threaten  to overthrow a dysfunctional  paradigm  or
expose  collusive patterns of dishonesty.   Such honor  is
usually bestowed by later   generations  after  power  has
fully passed to new generations which were not  threatened
by the creativity or the honesty.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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