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  %JACK JILL FALL LOVE PRAY THANK GOOD BLESS HONEST+940824
%TWELVE STEP ADDICT CODEPEND COLLUDE RELIGIOUS LOVE+940824
   %CHRISTIAN JEW MUSLIM TRUE TRUTH SEXUAL INTIMACY 940824

     Jack   and  Jill  (who  are  participants   in   some
collusions)  are falling in love.   The find themselves in
double-binds.  By the tacit rules of their collusions they
must be ready, willing and able, in many circumstances, to
dishonestly  protect  the secrecy which hides the  reality
and  nature of their collusions.   Yet,  their falling  in
love is the process of the  discovery of how wonderful and
satisfying  it  is  to let go of dishonest defenses and be
secure  in  safe vulnerability,  by virtue of the gift  of
true security.

     Jack and Jill are "good"  Christians who believe that
they  should  pray  and thank God for  all  His  wonderful
blessings.    How can Jack and Jill be faithful  to  their
collusions   (which   demand that they dishonestly  defend
the dishonest secrets of their collusions) and at the same
time  thank  God  for  Her  blessings  (in  bringing  them
together  in  mutually  satisfying intimacy  within  their
growing relationship of safe vulnerability)?

     Does the  First  Commandment  forbid participation in
collusions,    addictive  relationships  and   codependent
support?  Does the First Commandment forbid the worship of
dishonesty  as  a manipulative tool which is commonly used
within  collusive addictions and  codependent  support  of
collusive  addictions?    Are collusions,  addictions  and
codependency  idolatrous - - - human  creations  which are
worshipped as idols who demand the  sacrifice of truth and
honesty;   and  so  the sacrifice  of  both  personal  and
communal integrity?

     Why  have religious organizations within the  Jewish,
Muslim and Christian traditions been so silent about these
possible  interpretations  of the First Commandment  which
holds a central place within their traditions? Why have so
many   "Twelve  Step  Programs"   developed  outside   the
fellowships of such religious organizations?  Why have the
insights found within "Twelve Step Programs"  been so slow
to find their way into the daily  lives of those religious
organizations?  Are they incompatible?  In what ways?

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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