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%MORALIZERS LEGALISTIC SEX INHIBIT REPRESS EVIL SIN+940627
%FOCUS ATTENTION EXCLUSIVE PHYSICAL OBJECTIVE DEVIL+940627
 %REFLEXIVE ALIENATION COLLUSIVE ADDICT CODEPENDENT 940627

     Legalists  who are preoccupied with  sexuality  often
focus  their  attention rather exclusively  upon  physical
relationships   and  objective  behaviors---as   legalists
perceive them through their peculiar reflexive filters.

     They may have a good point  in that many human sexual
relationships are lacking in reflexive maturity,  balance,
honesty,   mutuality  and stability---while  striving  for
physical sexual achievements.  They are misguided in their
attempt  to correct for that lack of focus upon  reflexive
realities,  by focusing more attention upon  the  physical
aspects  of  the  dysfunctional  relationships  which  are
dysfunctional,  because  of  the neglect of  the reflexive
aspects of healthy human relationships.

     The  helpful  corrective  for a lack  of  focus  upon
reflexive  aspects  of healthy human relationships  is  to
focus  attention  upon the reflexive  aspects  of  healthy
human relationships in a positive way.

     Legalists  often  respond to an excessive focus  upon
the physical aspects of  unhealthy  human relationships by
focusing additional attention upon the physical aspects of
unhealthy human relationships---and so make matters worse.
The flax will not turn to gold so long as the attention is
upon  not thinking about the flax turning to  gold.    The
focus  of  attention  must  be  shifted  to  the reflexive
aspects of healthy human intimacy---aspects which  addicts
and  their codependent supporters cannot  control  through
collusive games of mutual self deception,  and so which do
not draw their interest.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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