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  %CONTEXT TRUE LOVE SEXUAL CONNECTION FEAR REVEALS+940620
    %VIOLENT DEFENSE COLLUSIVE GAMES SELF DECEPTION+940620
 %ADDICTIVE MANIPULATION CONTROL MANAGEMENT HONESTY 940620

    Within   the   context  of  true   love   and   sexual
relationships we may (if we wish to)  receive  revelations
of  the dysfunctional natures of  many  people's FEARS  of
such contexts, relationships and revelations. Within those
contexts  we may also receive (if we wish to)  revelations
of the  dysfunctional  natures  of  such  people's violent
DEFENSES of their collusive games of mutual self deception
as addicts and their codependent supporters.   It is  thus
natural  for fearful people to work to pervert  such  open
and honest contexts and relationships.

    The  above considerations suggest that it is dangerous
to  become  intimately  and/or sexually  involved  with  a
person  who is collusive,  addictive and/or codependent---
for  such  people  are likely to become  manipulative  and
violent when their patterns  of  dishonesty are threatened
by  the revealing possibilities of  truly  intimate and/or
sexual relationships. This caution is especially important
for  naive  young people to become aware  of  before  they
become motivated to get so involved.   They need education
regarding  the nature of the threats to their integrity as
they seek to become connected in healthy ways.

    Our   personal  and  communal  integrities  depend  on
whether  or not we  wish to receive true revelations which
are presented to us; i.e., they depend upon what we search
for.    If we are not seeking to be ourselves,  whole  and
healthy---then we are  not  likely to be ourselves,  whole
and healthy.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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