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%INCOMPLETE SPECIALTY EXCLUSIVITY NEGLECT TRUE LOVE+940512
   %PARADIGM OPEN HONEST DIALOGUE COMMON EXPERIENCE+940512
  %FAIL SIGN PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY SPECIALIST+940512
   %RESPONSIVE NEED LACK FEAR DEFENSE INCLUSIVE JOY+940512
 %SEPARATE ALIENATE SECURITY ACCEPT SEXUAL INTIMATE 940512

    A  paradigm  is an incomplete paradigm if it does  not
make  integrative provision for open and  honest  dialogue
regarding  each of the most common human experiences.    A
failure to make integrative provision for open and  honest
dialogue regarding  a  common  human experience is a  sign
that a paradigm  is  incomplete;  i.e.,  unable to promote
both personal and communal integrity.

    Specialists  narrow  their focus of attention to  some
limited  range of human experiences---in order to be  able
to be more  knowledgeable  about the narrow range of human
experiences,   than  are  generalists  who  seek   to   be
comprehensive in their integrative efforts.  The paradigms
of specialists are thus incomplete;  they are often unable
to  be  responsive in integrative ways to human  needs  to
deal with some common human experience.

    Some people seek to compensate for their fears through
defense mechanisms,  including exclusivities.    Exclusive
people,   clubs  and  places of business  are  fearful  of
whomever  and whatever they exclude.   Their paradigms  do
not  make  integrative  provisions  for  open  and  honest
dialogue with the people whom they exclude.    Neither  do
they  make  integrative  provision  for  open  and  honest
dialogue about excluded people's common human experiences.

    Fear  usually is rooted in some kind of separation  or
alienation;  in an absence of relationships in which  love
plays  an  active integrative role.   Fearful  people  are
alienated  from  common  human  experiences  and  are  not
comfortable in dealing with those common human experiences
from which they are separated.  Alienation engenders fear,
and  fear engenders alienation---in  a  vicious  feed-back
loop  where  defensiveness excludes from consideration the
giving and accepting  of  true gifts of security  known as
the freedom to be  safely  vulnerable  in  open and honest
dialogue.     Fearful  people's  paradigms  do  not   make
provision  for  open and honest dialogue with  each  other
regarding each other's fears.   Fearful people's paradigms
are  tragically  incomplete.     Fearful  people  are  not
familiar  with integrative conflict resolution,  and often
fear  the possibility of conflict resolution  which  would
reduce the substance of their lives which is fear.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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