This is http://www.essayz.com/a9405051.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SUGGEST POSSIBLE MORE INTIMATE SEX LOVE TOGETHER+940505 %TRUE SELF OTHER DESIRE OPEN HONEST RESPONSIVE SAFE+940505 %SECURE VULNERABLE PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY 940505 It seems to me that in your own unique way you are suggesting that it is possible for us to become more intimate. Am I seeing only what I want to see? Am I seeing what you want to see? What you want me to see? What I want you to see? What is real in my sensing that you are suggesting that it is desirable for us to become more intimate? Can I be true to myself and you; open, honest, responsive, and securely safe to be vulnerable to you with personal integrity? Can you be true to your self and me; open, honest, responsive, and securely safe to be vulnerable to me with personal integrity. Can I accept you into dialogue and listen to you be true to your self and me; without feeling that I must judge, condemn, reject and excommunicate you---if you do not conform to my expectations? Can you accept me into dialogue and listen to me be true to myself and you; without feeling that you must judge, condemn, reject and excommunicate me---if I do not conform to your expectations? Are you able to be open and honest with your self? Has your family been open and honest with you? Are your closest friends able to be true to themselves and to you? Similarly for myself? Is your sexual disposition compatible with my sexual disposition; are we potentially compatible? Or, are we hiding from ourselves and each other our true sexual dispositions because other people insist that we do so? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================