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   %DISINTEGRATIVE MANIPULATIVE CONTROL GUILT SHAME+940422
     %PRIDE SATISFACTION MEANING FULFILLMENT IDEALS+940422
                      %SUCCESS PLAN SYSTEM FORMULAS 940422

     If  we are to be people of integrity living  together
in  communities  of  integrity---we need  to  be  able  to
recognize, name, describe and talk about the possibilities
of disintegrative: pride, satisfaction, fulfillment, guilt
and shame.

     Some  forms  of  success,  pride,   satisfaction  and
fulfillment  lead to personal and communal disintegration.
So also some forms of guilt and same lead to personal  and
communal disintegration.  We need to be able to recognize,
name,   describe  and talk about such forms and what  they
lead to.

     Forms   which   lead   to   personal   and   communal
disintegration  usually  entail:  dishonesty,   deception,
secrecy,   misleadings,  confusions,  ignorance,  neglect,
exclusivity,   imbalance,  frustration,  anger,  coercion,
violence, alienation,  and silence.   Often disintegrative
forms    entail  formal  formulas  which   prescribe   and
proscribe what should or should  not be done;  rather than
describe  personally  what has  been  done  and  what  the
consequent experiences have been, ment, and taught.

     Integrative forms lead to learning.    Disintegrative
forms do not lead to learning; but rather lead to repeated
patterns  of  futility---even though there may seem to  be
some successes worthy  of  respect,  pride,  satisfaction,
fulfillment and meaning.

     When we feel successful,  satisfied,   fulfilled  and
meaningful we need to consider carefully whether or not we
are  being  true  to  ourselves and  to  each  other  with
integrity  in  communities  of integrity;  for we  may  be
perversely disintegrative in the manner of the popular and
successful Nazi leaders in Germany.

     When  we  feel  unsuccessful,  dis-satisfied,  unful-
filled  and  meaningless  we need  to  consider  carefully
whether  or not our judgments have lead us to be people of
integrity  living  within  communities of integrity.   Our
judgments may have been based upon assumptions, attitudes,
ideals, values,  beliefs and ways  of  relating which lack
both personal and communal integrity;  and thus led us  to
where we are.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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