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    %COMPULSIVE OBJECT MANIPULATE CONTROL REFLEXIVE+940327
  %INTIMATE SEXUAL KNOWLEDGE HONESTY VULNERABLE JOY 940327

     Compulsively objective/manipulative  people  find  it
difficult  if  not impossible to be truly honest---because
true honesty involves reflecting and being reflexive about
self, others, and personal relationships.

     Compulsively  objective/manipulative  people  pretend
that all true  realities  are  objective,  manipulable and
vulnerable to being controlled;  so they pretend that they
are always being objective and are never being reflexive.
cannot at  the same time openly engage  in truly
secure  relationships  known in the freedom to  be  safely
vulnerable in the absence of preoccupations with issues of
control, manipulation and vulnerability.

     True intimacy, sexual knowledge,  and honesty are not
possible  while  we  are  pretending  that  we  are  never
reflexive---and   pretending  that  we  are  always  being
objective and in control of ourselves and others.

     We cannot  enjoy true personal and communal integrity
while being preoccupied with perpetual objectivity, issues
of control and conformity.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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