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    %DISINTEGRATIVE FEAR MANIPULATE COERCION ADDICT+940314
    %NATURAL CONSEQUENCES ALIENATION CONTROL HONEST 940314

     Fear  is  disintegrative  if it is the kind  of  fear
which  disintegrative  people can use  as  a  manipulative
tool.    Fear  is  integrative  if it is the kind of  fear
which     helps    us   avoid    disintegrative    natural
consequences which   are  not engendered by disintegrative
people.

     Wise    people    know   the    difference    between
disintegrative fears  and  integrative  fears.   We become
the victims  of manipulative people if we are  confused by
them   and   do   not   know     how     to    distinguish
disintegrative fears   from integrative fears.

     It   is disintegrative to hand tools of  manipulation
to  manipulative    people   because   we   fear them  and
their manipulations.     Respecting  dishonest people when
they   are  using  dishonesty  as  a  tool  by  which   to
manipulate  us  ---   makes us  co-colluders  with them in
their victimization  of  us. Respecting  dishonesty  as  a
tool  of  control  by   which   to control  anybody --- is
handing  a   tool   of    manipulation   to disintegrative
people---and   engenders   evil  relationships. Respecting
preoccupations  with  the control  of  people  and   their
personal   relationships   ---    is  handing   tools   of
manipulation       to      disintegrative          people.
Manipulative people    and relationships  are  not  worthy
of respect, and  we become manipulative  people trapped in
manipulative    relationships   when    we    do   respect
manipulative  people, relationships, ideals and values.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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