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   %TRUE HONEST PRETEND BELIEF EXPLAIN DECISION ACT+931112
                                          %BEHAVIOR 931112

     When  we  honestly  say  what  we  believe,  we   are
responding  to people's questions regarding why we  behave
as we behave.   Our behaviors flow from our beliefs;  then
our  true statements about what we believe flow  from  our
behaviors,  and are explanations of our behaviors.  We are
honestly   responsive,   responsible,  when we explain our
behaviors by  saying  openly and honestly what we believe.
Our  honest statements about what we believe are  coherent
with  our  behaviors,   and  are  signs  of  our  personal
integrity.

     When  we recite conformal statements of belief  which
we regard as convenient and advantageous for us to recite,
we are  not  honestly  responding  to  people's  questions
regarding  why  we behave as we behave.    Such  conformal
recitations  are not explanations of behaviors which  flow
from our beliefs.   Rather,  they  are false statements in
which  we  falsely  claim that we believe what we  say  we
believe.    Our  conformal statement of belief. are  false
statements which flow from  our  hidden  and confused real
belief that such conformal false statements of  belief are
in our best interest.   Our  logic  is perverted and lacks
integrity.  Our beliefs are so confused that it is hard to
clearly say what  our  beliefs really are.   Our conformal
statements about what we believe flow from our fears; they
do not  flow  from  our  behaviors,    and  they  are  not
explanations of our behaviors.

     When  we  conform to people's expectations of  us and
recite conformal  statements of belief we  are  not  being
responsible in responding to questions about why we behave
as  we do.   We are living in the fear that if we  do  not
conform  we will not be accepted;  acceptable.   Our fears
undermine  both our personal and communal integrity,   and
our behaviors and statements of belief are incoherent.  Is
it  any  wonder that wise people do not believe us and  do
not believe in us?    Is it any wonder that wise people do
not follow us?   Is is any wonder that most of our friends
are  addictive  and  codependent people playing  collusive
games of mutual self deception with us?

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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