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    %KIND REALITY PROMOTE TRANSCEND FEAR MANIPULATE 931007

     It  is  one kind of reality when we fear the  natural
consequences of possible  courses of physical action which
we imagine that we might take, physical consequences which
are not dominated by human efforts to be in control.  Such
natural consequences we need to understand, respect and be
guided  by---in  order to maintain personal  and  communal
integrity.

     It  is  a  different  kind of  reality  when  we  are
encouraged   to   fear  human   rejections,    exclusions,
alienations,  and excommunications which are threatened as
punishment of us by insecure  manipulative people who fear
that we might expose their collusive games  of mutual self
deception.    Such human  encouragement  of  our fears  of
rejections, exclusions,  alienations  and excommunications
are disintegrative and  do  not  merit our respect.    The
encouragement of our fears of such sorts is disintegrative
because  it generates  distrust,  suspicion,   resentment,
secrecy,   pretense,   dishonesty,  repression  and  other
responses  which  stand  in the way  of  open  and  honest
dialogue.

     The  fear of being exposed as a dishonest participant
in  systemic  collusive games of mutual self deception  is
yet a third kind of reality---the fear of honesty.    When
we have  been  led to fear honesty we are close  to  total
personal  and  communal  disintegration.    When  we  fear
honesty there is no way to  know what or whom to trust, or
under what conditions.    We then put all kinds of fearful
conditions  upon our willingness  to trust,  and by  being
unwilling  to  trust we give each other  fear-full signals
that we are not trust-worthy.

     The  fear of being manipulated by colluders,  addicts
and  their  codependent  supporters is a  fourth  kind  of
reality.    Such  fear can promote personal  and  communal
integrity if it is prudent, well informed and wise.  It is
not  integrative  to be manipulated by fearful people  who
are  defensive because they are insecure.   We do need  to
develop the  spiritual  skills with which  to  evade  such
disintegrative   manipulation   by  people  who  seek   to
manipulate   us   by   encouraging and  manipulating   our
disintegrative fears.

     Not all fears are of the same kind.   We will do well
and  be  well when we know how to  recognize  the  various
kinds  of fears and so be able to avoid being  manipulated
by fearful people who use fears as tools of disintegrative
manipulation.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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