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     %SURVIVE ADJUST ACCOMMODATE APPEAR HONEST EVIL+931003
%COLLUDE GAME MUTUAL SELF DECEPTION ADDICT CODEPEND 931003

     Our  human ability to survive in hostile environments
has  depended  much upon our ability  to  adapt,   adjust,
accommodate  and  to appear to be other than  we  actually
are.

     Our dilemma is  that the  abilities which enabled our
survival  in  hostile environments are often  turned  into
perverse  tools  in our disintegrative collusive  games of
mutual self deception.

     We  ADAPT  to other people's dishonesty and  fail  to
confront  the dishonesty of addicts and their  codependent
supporters.

     We adjust our desires, wishes, hopes, and aspirations
so as to minimize our frustrations and disappointments  in
the  face of disintegative limitations imposed upon us  by
dishonest people who are addictive, codependent supporters
and   participants  in  collusive  games  of  mutual  self
deception.

     We  ACCOMMODATE  to  perverse  motives,  motivations,
technologies,   and  political systems;  rather than  work
creatively to transform and reform them.

     We APPEAR to be other than we really are to avoid the
hard  work  of  being  true to  ourselves  and  others  in
creative  confrontations with those who seek to control us
in addictive and codependent ways.

     We  fail to see and hear the truth which we  fear  to
deal with openly and forthrightly;  and so accommodate  to
patterns of paradigms which support collusions, addictions
and codependency.

     Our survival instincts need to be modified in ways to
promote true personal and communal integrity.   We need to
recognize,   name,  and talk about instances in which  our
survival    instincts   are   perverted   and   lead    to
disintegration rather than to survival.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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