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%POSSIBLE LEARN REFLEXIVE EXPERIENCE TABOO TALK SEX+930807
%SILENT QUIET MISTAKE FAIL SHAME GUILT CHILD PARENT 930807

     It  is difficult and nearly impossible to learn  much
of  value  from our reflexive experiences and mistakes  so
long as:

     1.  We believe we should not talk to ourselves.

     2.  We  deal  with  embarrassing  issues  by  keeping
silent, not talking with other people about such issues.

     3.  It  is  taboo  to be open and  honest  about  our
reflexive  experiences because we should be objective  all
the time.

     4.  It  is  taboo to personally admit to ever  having
had certain reflexive experiences.

     5.  It  is  taboo   to ever  have  certain  reflexive
experiences, they are mortal sin mistakes.

     6.  We and  others are individually trying to achieve
salvation through perfection.

     7.  We  and  others  are preoccupied with  issues  of
control flowing from outside one person to inside another.

     8.  Our provincial assumptions,  attitudes,  feelings
and thought patterns are attributed as coming from God.

     9.  Our own   ultimate   concerns    exclude   honest
consideration of other concerns of other people.

     10.  We   play   collusive  games  of   mutual   self
deception,    addictions  and  engagements   in  dishonest
attempts  at unilateral rescue of  dishonest/dysfunctional
other people.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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