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 %SELF JUSTIFICATION ACHIEVEMENT GOOD BEHAVIOR EVIL 930806

     Much  of  our  behavior  is in  one  way  or  another
motivated  by our efforts to try to justify  ourselves  in
the  eyes  of judgmental legalists.   They and we  do  not
regard  ourselves as good/perfect enough to be accepted as
persons into a secure family  where  listening,  dialogue,
conversation and talk are open and honest; where we can be
safely  vulnerable.   We are often lacking in healthy self
esteem  and often trying to justify ourselves in  our  own
eyes and in the eyes of others.

     The birth,  life,  teachings,  attitudes,  death  and
resurrection  of  Jesus  of Nazareth reveals that  we  can
regain  personal  and communal integrity only when we give
up trying to justify ourselves.  We can enjoy personal and
communal  integrity  only  when we  regard each  other  as
permanent  members   God's Holy Family,  members  who  are
inherently  and  permanently worthy of being  accepted  as
imperfect persons.  In this way  we can  be encouraged  to
engage in listening, dialogue, conversations and talk that
are open, honest and charitable---by being  given the gift
of  being   free  to  be safely  vulnerable  as  imperfect
permanent members of God's Holy Family.

     So long as we are motivated by desires/compulsions to
justify  ourselves,   so  long  we engage  in  futile  and
alienative  attempts to control each other and  ourselves.
We alienate ourselves from each other,  from ourselves and
from God through collusive games of mutual self deception,
multiple addictions and futile dishonest efforts to rescue
dysfunctional  people  who refuse to be honest  about  why
their  lives are so messed up.   We can be set  from  such
motivations, desires and compulsions only by accepting the
fact that there is no God-given reason for us  to  try  to
justify ourselves in any way.   The  only reasons  we have
for trying to justify ourselves  in  our many  and  varied
ways  are  reasons which flow from  other people trying to
justify themselves in dysfunctional  ways just as we  are.
It  is all very trying!   It is time to give up trying  to
justify ourselves in each other's eyes and/or in the  eyes
of God.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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