This is http://www.essayz.com/a9307304.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SELF VIOLENCE MULTIPLE PERSON INTERNAL CONFLICT 930730 People do commit suicide. People do do violence to themselves. People do torture themselves. People are masochists on occasion. How are we to understand such behaviors? People do internalize conflicting ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes, assumptions, etc. Thus people often have internalized conflicts which may be unrecognized but still expressed by one power center doing violence to another power center within the person. Self- violence can thus be seen as an expression of an internalized and unresolved conflict between conflicting ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes, assumptions, etc. which are operative within one person. To minimize self-conflict we thus need to resolve internalized conflicts. To resolve internalized conflicts we will no doubt need to know how to resolve conflicts between different people in win-win ways --- to the satisfaction of those who represent the conflicting ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes, assumptions, etc. Conflicts may be internalized accidentally by a person internalizing in different situations and from different people various ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes, assumptions, etc. which are not recognized as being in conflict---with each being regarded unqualifiedly as good, respectable, proper, appropriate, worthy of respect, etc. Yet at a later date in some situation or context the implicit conflict(s) may be activated and the person may do violence to their self or to others because of the activation. The activation of internalized conflicts may itself be accidental, or it may deliberately be brought about by some person wishing to get another person to do violence to self or others. In fact manipulative people may intentionally inject conflicting ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes, assumptions into a person or persons---with the deliberate intent of activating the injected conflicts at a future date. This may be done with conscious knowledge, or with subconscious cleverness. In each of the above circumstances to minimize violence we need to learn how to recognize and resolve conflicts in win-win ways which bring satisfaction to the representatives of the conflicting elements; whether within one person or distributed among two or more persons. Here the principles articulated by Fisher and others in "Getting to Yes", "Getting Together", and "Getting Past Now" are relevant. We need to learn how to resolve not only conflicts between different people; but also to resolve conflicts between/among ideals, values, principles, goals, attitudes, and assumptions which may have been accidentally internalized by a person or deliberately injected into a person; with later accidental or deliberate activation. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================