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  %DEFENSE AGAINST SHAME CODEPENDENT ADDICT CONTROL 930728

     We  are vulnerable to abuse by collusive addicts  and
codependents  if  we do not know how to  defend  ourselves
against  manipulative  maneuvers  in  which  they  try  to
control us by eliciting feelings of guilt and shame.

     To effectively defend ourselves against such violence
we  need  to  understand  the nature of guilt  and  shame,
recognize  when  people  are trying to elicit feelings  of
guilt  and shame  as manipulative tools,  and confront the
situation openly and honesty for what it is.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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