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  %CONTROL THOUGHT FEELING RESPONSE PATTERN EXPRESS 930327

     We  sometimes try to control other people's thoughts,
feelings and response patterns.    About all we can do  is
get  some other people to deceive us by hiding  their true
thoughts, feeling and responses to our attempts to control
them.   That is not much of an accomplishment!

     How people respond to us as persons is not within the
possibility of control.   Neither we nor they are  objects
which   can   be  controlled.    We   respond   to  people
independently of their plans for us.  Other people respond
to us independently of our plans for them.  Only fools try
to control  how  other  people  respond  to  them.    Only
collusive  fools play  addictive and codependent  games of
mutual self deception in which  they think  that they  are
controlling other people's thoughts, feelings and personal
responses.  About the only thing they are successful in is
generating  alienation between themselves and  others;  so
that   they   are   misinformed,    uninformed   and   and
misunderstood.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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