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   %CONTROL REJECT SALVATION REDEMPTION ADDICT FAIL 930319

     Our  best  achievements, successes, conformities  and
fulfillments of expectations are not healthy  grounds  for
pride,  self esteem,  or personal acceptance.    To think,
believe and/or feel otherwise will lead us into the tragic
traps  of  false  pride,   low self esteem,   and personal
rejection.

     If we think,  believe and feel that our salvation and
redemption  depend  upon our best achievements,  successes
conformities and  fulfillments  of  expectations;  then we
falsely  expect that we can put ourselves in the  position
to control those who are prone to reject us.   There is no
way in  which we can control those who are prone to reject
us.  We cannot  be  healthy so long as we try to find ways
to control  those people who are prone to reject us.    We
are  tragically  mislead  if we think,   believe  or  feel
otherwise.

     We cannot control those who are prone to reject us by
our pointing to our achievements,  successes, conformities
or fulfillments of expectations---for people who are prone
to reject us have it in their power to  resist all  of our
efforts to control  them.   We cannot control them through
our merits, goodness, or perfection.   Attempting to do so
leads to tragedies.

     People  who are prone to reject us regard  alienation
as  an acceptable tool for use in personal  manipulations;
and they are more  prone  to  accept  alienative  tools of
manipulation,   than  they  are prone  to  accept  healthy
people.    In their  self  righteousness  they  resort  to
rejections,        excommunications,          banishments,
disfellowshipping   and   other  attacks   upon   peoples'
integrity as means of personal manipulation.  They believe
that they can control  other people  by  such  means,  and
thereby achieve their own salvation.   We will be fools if
we join them in such a belief.  We will be fools if we try
to control them in ways similar to how they try to control
us.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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