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                    %DEFENSE SELF OTHER GIFT CREATE 930219

     When we are truly secure,  we with pleasure let go of
our defenses.

     We  are not truly secure until we give each other the
gift  of being free to let go of defenses in a  fail  safe
context.

     True  security  is  the gift of a fail  safe  context
wherein we feel free to let go of our defenses with  peace
in pleasure.

     We  cannot  create  true security  through  defensive
maneuvers;  for in trying to create security for ourselves
through  defensive  maneuvers  we  create  insecurity  for
others.

     When we make others feel insecure,   their insecurity
leads them to act in ways which make us feel insecure.

     Security  cannot be created at the expense of others.
If  we try to win security for ourselves at the expense of
other's security; then we all become more insecure at each
other's expense.

     Security cannot be taken away from others in order to
have it for ourselves.  Security can be given to others in
order that we may enjoy it together.

     Security  is  not a possession which we can  keep  to
ourselves at each other's expense.  Security is a gift  we
can  give  to each other and enjoy with each other through
generosity.

     Security is not a possession we can create and retain
through  any  form  of  defense.   By being  defensive  we
undermine each other's security,  and so we undermine  our
own security.

     When  we are truly secure we can be true to ourselves
and  to each other.  When we are not true to ourselves and
to  each  other  we are not secure.  When we are  true  to
ourselves and to each other we become secure in  our  true
knowledge of ourselves and each other.

     When we are truly secure through giving and receiving
gifts of security,  we are free to let go of our defenses.
When  we  let go of our defenses we are able to  be  truly
secure through giving and receiving gifts of true security
which transcends our defensive imaginations.

     True  security  is  not  achieved  through  defensive
maneuvers  which  involve us  in  dishonesty.   Dishonesty
elicits insecurity. Honesty engenders security.

     Honesty  is risky.   Dishonesty is even more risky in
the long run.

     Dishonesty  leads to long term insecurity.    Honesty
leads to short term insecurity.

     Long term insecurity through dishonesty leads to arms
races and global disintegration.

     Short  term insecurity through honesty is risky,  and
can lead to peace and long-term security.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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