This is http://www.essayz.com/a9301302.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %INTEGRITY THREAT CONTROL INTIMATE PERSON RELATION 930130 The integrity of an intimate personal relationship is threatened whenever any person or persons seek to plan, control, or manipulate the relationship without being an open and honest intimate participant within the relationship. This is true even if the intentions are sincere, principled, and high-minded. Even efforts which are guided by generally accepted laws, moral codes, ethical rules, and taboos threaten the integrity of an intimate personal relationship if the efforts are made by a person or by persons seeking to avoid open and honest participation within the relationship. The effects of any efforts to influence an intimate personal relationship depend critically upon how openly and honestly the people making the efforts participate within the relationship. Objective manipulations from outside the relationship are usually disintegrative. Systematic efforts based upon some theory of what causes will lead to what effects, are usually misguided by false assumptions and by pretense; and such efforts engender quite unexpected effects which are usually disintegrative. Integrity in intimate personal relationships is best supported by other persons participating in the relationships openly, honestly and with integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================