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 %JACK JILL KNOW EACH OTHER TEMPT CHANGE IMAGE GROW 930104

     Jack and Jill are getting to know each other.    They
are tempted to try to change each other to make each other
conform  to their own pre-conceived  images  of  how  each
other would be as an ideal person to be with.

     Jack  and Jill have found that they cannot succeed in
their  programs  of  reformation of each other,   and  are
frustrated by  their  failures;  and blame each other  for
their own failures in attempting the impossible.

     As Jack and Jill's relationship develops they do each
change,   but  not  in the ways  which  each  planned  and
intended.  Their relationship is the  context within which
they change;  but not under each other's control, and they
each  find this fact hard to accept.  How they  change  in
part depends upon  how  they each accept the possibilities
of change within the context of their relationship.

     As  they  get  to know each other Jack and  Jill  may
change in many ways so as to:

     1.  Come to appreciate each other more deeply.

     2.  Understand each other more fully.

     3.  Desire more to be together and work together.

     4.  Let each other be true to themselves.

     5.  Be more honest with each other about themselves.

     As they spend time with each other Jack and Jill may,
on the other hand, change so as to:

     1.  Realize  that  they cannot get  along  with  each
other.

     2.  Misunderstand each other more and more.

     3.  Lose their desires to be together.

     4.  Want more and more to control each other.

     5.  Be less and less open with and to each other.

     If  Jack and Jill in their relationship try to  avoid
change which they cannot control,  the latter of the above
two sets of five changes are most likely to occur. If Jack
and  Jill in their relationship seek to grow  together  in
enjoyment of  each other as they change, the former of the
above two sets of five changes are most likely to occur.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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