This is http://www.essayz.com/a9212111.htm         
Previous-Essay      <== This-Essay ==>     Following-Essay
Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words.
{Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.}
==========================================================
 %INTIMATE RELATION HONEST CONFLICT RESOLUTION BOND 921211

     The  following are intimately related to  each  other
for reasonable,  logical,  natural reasons---which we need
to recognize, understand and deal with:

     1.  Dishonesty

     2.  Misleading behavior

     3.  Secretive behavior

     4.  Defensiveness

     5.  Insecurity

     6.  Poverty

     7.  Powerlessness

     8.  Offensiveness

     9.  Attacks

    10.  Forgetfulness

     Dishonesty,   misleading  behaviors and secretiveness
are  all aspects of the defensive and offensive  behaviors
by  which insecure and powerless people seem to compensate
for their being insecure and powerless. Their attacks upon
others  are their efforts to achieve security through  the
exercise  of  what  they  perceive  to  be  power.   Their
defensiveness is an effort to achieve security through the
achievement  of invulnerability.  In paradoxical ways such
people often  appear to be powerful and are often regarded
by many people as being among the most  powerful people on
earth;  but  they are wearing false power as a mask  which
hides  their true nature and character.   In reality  they
lack   true  self  esteem  and  cannot  learn  from  their
mistakes,   because they are forgetful in the midst of the
mistakes in their futile conflicts.

     The  following  are also intimately related  to  each
other for reasonable, logical,  natural reasons---which we
need  to  recognize and understand in order to be able  to
deal with the above disintegrative realities:

     1.  Honesty

     2.  Integrity

     3.  Openness

     4.  Vulnerability

     5.  Security

     6.  Wealth

     7.  Power

     8.  Conflict-resolution

     9.  Gentleness

    10.  Creative-learning

     Honesty, integrity and openness  are  keys  to  being
whole  and  healthy through true communications,  dialogue
and    conversations   which   bring    our    essentially
complementary but differing parts together;  and bond them
into   coherent whole  persons  and  relationships  within
secure communities.

     True  security  is  the freedom provided  by  healthy
communal contexts wherein people are free to be vulnerable
in open, honest,  intimate, bonding relationships. Without
true    security---honesty,  integrity  and  openness  are
inconceivable;   and  are  rarely  envisioned,  conceived,
dreamed of, hoped for, worked for, realized, or enjoyed.

     True  wealth  and power are discovered and created in
truly  secure contexts where people are free to  be  truly
themselves---within  cooperative  behaviors through  which
they   truly   resolve   their    fundamental    conflicts
between/among  ideals,  values,  goals,   and  the uses of
means, techniques, and technologies.

     Truly  powerful  and wealthy people are  free  to  be
gentle and to learn creatively new knowledge, insights and
skills---for they are secure in the true knowledge of  who
they are themselves,  who each other is in  reality,   and
what   the  natures  of  their   inter-relationships   and
cooperative potentials are.  They do not forget what  they
learn---so  their  power and  wealth  grows  exponentially
because  their  ability to learn and  remember  builds  in
proportion to all these integrative realities.

     The   above   first  set  of  above   realities   are
disintegrative  realities  which are inversely  correlated
with   the  second  set  of  above  realities  which   are
integrative realities.

     The above first set of realities  lead to alienation,
estrangement,    misunderstanding,   evil   relationships,
disintegration,     violence,    injustice,    addictions,
terrorism, crime, wars, abuses, etc.

     The   above   second   set  of  realities   lead   to
reconciliation, forgiveness,   mutual understanding,  love
relationships, integration, tenderness,  justice,  health,
charity, responsiveness, peace, healing, etc.

     We  need to understand and teach each new  generation
the  nature  of the above realities and how they relate to
each  other;  so that they may search  for  integrity  and
honesty in being themselves, whole and healthy. Then there
will be true fulfillment, joy, pleasure and happiness.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
==========================================================