This is http://www.essayz.com/a9210233.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TENSION ANXIETY RELAX REST HEALTH CONFLICT RESOLVE 921023 Often we are anxious and under tension, unable to relax, rest and enjoy health---because we have not recognized, named, described and creatively dealt with our underlying internal conflicts. If there are internal conflicts between our expectations and our realities, we are bound to be tense and anxious; unable to relax, rest and enjoy health. We may expect more of ourselves than is realistic; and be tense in trying to deal with the disparity between our achievements and our self expectations. There are conflicts between our self expectations and our personal realities; our personal possibilities. We need to deal with those conflicts openly, honestly and creatively---to resolve them and eliminate the tensions which they create. Conflict resolution is not an objective procedure; it is a reflexive procedure. Conflict resolution pertains to subjective ideals, values, goals, desires, needs, hopes, fears, and aspirations. The primary realities in conflict resolutions are not objective realities; they are reflexive realities which cannot be dealt with wisely while operating primarily within an objectivist's paradigm. To resolve our conflicts and be freed of our tensions we need to behave in non-objective ways; in reflexive ways which are personally sensitive, creative, wise, open and honest. Conflict resolution is impossible within the context of a society which is dominated by addictive, collusive and codependent people. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================