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    %ACTIVE LISTEN TALK DIALOGUE HEAR HONEST ADDICT 921008

     Why  do we not hear what each other says often?   Why
is there so much misunderstanding?  The reasons are  many,
yet   many  of  the  reasons  for  not  hearing  and   not
understanding can be "corrected".

     Often  the  words  we use mean  different  things  to
different   people  who  live  and  operate  according  to
different paradigms,  assumptions,  beliefs,  perceptions,
convictions, ideals, and values.

     Often  out  of  fear  we do not  want  to  hear  what
different people are trying to tell us. We may be involved
in collusions which cherish misleading views  and threaten
us if we take seriously any challenges to those misleading
views; if so, listening to people with differing views can
be very threatening.

     Why should we listen to people who are  fundamentally
different  from  us,   if  they  might  expose  our   self
deceptions, undermine our cherished misleading views,  and
threaten our dishonest paradigm?  Why should we permit our
friends   to  listen  to  people  who  are   fundamentally
different from us.  As fundamentalists we want our friends
to  stick to the fundamentals of our cherished  views  and
convictions;   and  avoid  listening  to  people  who  are
fundamentally different from us in any way.  We are driven
by  fear,   and do not know how to fear  the  devastations
which people driven by fear can  bring upon themselves and
others.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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