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 %PERSONAL ABUSE TOOL MEANS ADVANTAGE DIALOGUE LOVE 921007

     Personally  abusive people seek to make use of  other
persons as tools to be used for personal advantage without
any interest  in  being in dialogue with the other persons
as  human  beings.   They do not begin  or  end  with  any
interest in honest dialogue;  treating other persons as no
more  than objects.  Their attitudes and ways of  treating
other people are evil, because they flow from and engender
estrangement and alienation.

     Personally abusive persons may treat other persons as
objects, bodies, to be used and abused. Or, they may treat
other persons as economic tools which are  needed only for
the purpose of getting certain  jobs done at minimal cost.
At  another  level other persons may be used as  political
pawns  in power plays;  as dispensable soldiers to be used
on  the battlefields of political,  economic,   religious,
professional,  business,  scientific,  or military wars in
which they the pawns have no voice.

     Personally abusive people are sick,   dis-eased,  and
their  behaviors  make  other  people  sick,    dis-eased.
Personally  abusive people try to control what  cannot  be
controlled---in  efforts to achieve security which  cannot
be achieved, because it can only be received as a gift.

     Personally abusive people need to accept the gift  of
love,  but often cannot accept the gift of love because it
is not offered,  or because they refuse to accept the gift
of love on its own true terms.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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