This is http://www.essayz.com/a9208191.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DEFENSE LACK JOY CREATE COOPERATE RELAX REST LOVE 920819 So long as we are fearful and defensive we lack true: Joy Creativity Relaxation Fun Recreation Health Love Charity Forgiveness Hope Honesty Friendship Truth Intimacy Sexuality Power Justice Cooperation Faith Stability Balance Security Safety Shalom Health Integrity Wholeness We cannot truly transcend such lacks unless we work to help free each other from our fears of: Rejection Shunning Alienation Excommunication Banishment Estrangement Exclusion Ridicule Disfellowship Isolation Loneliness Abandonment Disintegration Attack Violence. We cannot free ourselves from such fears. We can together work cooperatively to help free each other from such fears. We can free each other from such fears by communally giving the gift of true security which is the true assurance by a whole healthy community that such fears are groundless. Such assurance cannot be given by one person, or a minority of persons; for it needs to be given by the whole community, as a whole, truly healthy, honest and committed in its giving. This can be done only through the cooperation of the community as a whole. We as individuals need to work toward helping our community as a healthy whole to give the gift of security to all members of the community; doing so without threatening any member of the community---for threats undermine and destroy security. Threats are defensive actions of insecure people, not gifts of security. Threats engender the fears which lead to the lacks. Lacks engender fears which lead to defensiveness and threats. Threats, fears, defensiveness and lacks augment each other exponentially; for the growth in each is proportional to the extent of each of the others in the set. We need to take note of what we most fear. We most fear exclusion from a true community. We need to free each other from what we most fear. Freedom from fear is the essence of true security. Security cannot be achieved. Security can be given by a community to its members. Our lacks flow from our fears. Our fears flow from our lacks. Threats engender fears and the loss of security. Being defensive does not promote security. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================