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%DETACH ALCOHOLIC DRUG ADDICT COLLUSION HONEST TRUE 910629

     What  is  it  that the codependent detaches  from  in
the process of detachment of the Twelve Step Programs?

     It  is  not so much the addict which the  codependent
detaches  from,    but rather it is the collusive games of
mutual  self  deception   of  both  the  addict  and   the
codependent,      from  which  both  the  addict  and  the
codependent need to detach.

     Detachment  is  withdrawal  from  the  addictive  and
codependent patterns of dishonesty and self-deception.

     Detachment  is not withdrawal from dialogue and  from
open and  honest affection,   communication and  dialogue;
but  rather    is   a   return   to   open   and    honest
affection,   communication   and dialogue by  refusing  to
participate  in dishonest relationships.

     Detachment is escape from the prisons of dishonesty.

     Detachment violates the taboos and injunctions of the
game  of    mutual   self  deception  which  addicts   and
their supportive  codependents  play;  thus detachment  is
very difficult and "bad"  if not "evil"  from the point of
view  of the traditional life style of those  nearest  and
dearest in the addictive society.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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