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%COERCIVE HONEST CONFORM COMMUNITY INTEGRITY PERSON 910619

     The community which attempts to force its members  to
both conform and be honest will achieve neither goal.

     Coerced   conformity   invites   dishonesty   as    a
defensive measure.  Defensive dishonesty leads to internal
dishonesty and  personal  disintegration;   which in  turn
leads    to  communal     disintegration.       In     the
presence    of disintegration,    standards for conformity
become confused and disintegrate;  and the community lacks
unity,   ceases to be  with-unity.    Thus the attempt  to
force  members   of   a community to both conform  and  be
honest always fails.

     When  members  of  a community are given signals   to
both conform  and  be honest,   they get  mixed   signals;
they  usually   cannot  respond  with  integrity  to   the
conflicting signals.  They recognize that the signals lack
integrity,   and   they  find  it  nearly  impossible   to
respond    with   integrity   to    signals   which   lack
integrity.    The  usual response  to  such  mixed signals
is to  respond  in  dis-integrative ways.

     When  we  receive mixed signals we need to be  honest
with ourselves (and maybe with others)   that the  signals
we  are receiving  are mixed signals.   Taking  refuge  in
confusion  and   pretense  about mixed signals  will   not
make  things better  for us.   To protect our own personal
integrity   in the  presence  of mixed  communal  signals,
we  need   to   be  honest  (at   least   with  ourselves)
about   the   lack   of integrity in the  signals  we  are
receiving.   It may not  be safe  to be honest with others
about   our  perceptions   that  the   signals   we    are
receiving are  signals  which  lack integrity;  for within
collusions  caution is in order when tempted to speak  the
truth openly and publicly.

     If    within   ourselves   we   maintain   our    own
personal  integrity,     keep  touch  with   the   deepest
aspects  of ourselves,   and  are  prudent when tempted to
speak  the truth;   we  may  survive to  promote  communal
integrity  through   contributing to significant  conflict
resolution.    Fighting     battles    which    perpetuate
conflict  will  not improve  matters.   We must get to the
roots of  conflicts between  ideals and values,   and help
the  incarnations  of conflicting  ideals  and  values  to
work   to   resolve  the conflicts between the ideals  and
values which they embody.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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