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 %INTERNALIZE SELF BELIEF FEEL SHOULD EXPECT REJECT 910517

     When we internalize within our selves the belief that
we   should  feel  in  certain  expected,   prescribed  or
anticipated ways in response to particular situations  and
experiences---we   thereby  set  the  state  for  profound
dishonesty.    Conformal feeling is bound to be  dishonest
because   when   trying  to  conform   our   feelings   to
expectations,    prescriptions  or  anticipations  we  are
ignoring  our  true feelings and  denying  their  reality;
being  dishonest with ourselves and others about our  true
feelings  which are essentially our own.   Such dishonesty
generates  conflicts and disintegration.   In the darkness
and   confusion  of  such  dishonest  we  cannot  honestly
consider the evidence of our experiences, and so we cannot
make  wise  choices  in the light of the evidence  of  our
experiences.

     Participants  in   addictions,   codependencies   and
collusions  seek  ways  to prevent  anyone  from  honestly
responding  to  their true experiences and feelings;   for
such  experiences  and feelings are bound to lead  to  the
exposure  of the dishonest of the dominant  paradigm  with
its addictions, codependencies and collusions.  Thus there
are continued mandates to conform feelings and experiences
to the expected,  prescribed and/or anticipated ways; even
if  that  leads  to dishonesty and to  both  personal  and
communal disintegration.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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