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   %CONFLICT GOOD EVIL PEOPLE CONTROL GOALS PURPOSE 910428

     Often  tragically  well intended people  assume  that
what  is  needed   is  for  good people with good purposes
and   good goals  to be in control;   rather than for evil
people  with  evil   purposes  and evil  goals  to  be  in
control.   To  such people  life is a conflict between the
forces of good  and  the  forces of evil;  and they regard
themselves  as  being  on the side of the forces of  good.
Rarely do they notice that the people on the other side of
their conflict often  have made the very same assumptions,
and regard themselves   as being on the side of the forces
of  good in a  conflict with the  forces of  evil.    Such
conflicts are conflicts between people  who  make the same
tragic assumptions.   They  are unable  to transcend their
tragic assumptions.    They  are  unable  to resolve their
conflicts,     because  according   to  the   most   basic
assumptions that both sides have made;   it is  inherently
stupid,   foolish,   unwise and perhaps  even evil,     to
cooperate  in  any  way  with the people  who   have  been
fighting on the side of the forces of evil.

     People who are  engaged in conflict need to transcend
their  preoccupation  with being in control,    and  being
concerned about who is in control.   They need to ask  new
questions,  and  to  get their attention off of the  issue
of  control.  They  are  addicted to their  preoccupations
and  need  to detach from their preoccupations in order to
regain health and   integrity.    Only  when  they  detach
from    their preoccupation with issues having to do  with
control;    will they  be  able to listen to  each  other,
learn     from     each    other,       transcend    their
misunderstandings of each  other,  and  learn to cooperate
with  each  other  in   resolving   the  conflicts   which
undermine  their personal  and  communal integrity.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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