This is http://www.essayz.com/a9103231.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %IGNORANCE FEAR ALIENATION INTIMACY LOVE KNOWLEDGE 910323 Ignorance, fear and alienation inter-breed and undermine intimacy, love and knowledge. Intimacy, love and knowledge liberate people and free them from the bondages of ignorance, fear and alienation. People who are dominated by ignorance, fear and alienation are imprisoned by them. People who honestly know each other are liberated by their knowledge and love in integrative personal and communal relationships. Intimate personal relationships are as unique as are the people who participate in them. Conventional relationships which conform to traditional expectations, anticipations, requirements, regulations, prohibitions and taboos; are relationships which seek security in approved uniformity. True lovers seek to know themselves and each other as unique beings---by being open and honest with themselves and each other; in unique relationships which have integrity---because the relationships are fitting to their unique ways of honestly being themselves. To truly know some thing, relationship, concept, person, joy, fear, satisfaction, or other reality; one must be honestly and openly involved with it. Fearful detachment leads to ignorance and alienation. Secure involvement leads to true knowledge and understanding. Involvement with some thing, relationship, concept, or person entails the vulnerability associated with intimate knowledge. Intimacy is associated with vulnerability which is associated with the knowledge which intimacy brings. We fear to discover and know the ways we have deceived ourselves and each other, for we fear to discover and know how we lack integrity. It is dangerous to lack integrity, for in the absence of integrity there is disintegration. Yet, often we choose the appearance of security which we maintained through ignorance and deception. We often fear true security which involves honestly coming to know, acknowledge and deal with the details of our games of mutual self deception; our addictions and our involvement in dishonest codependent relationships. Because of our fear we remain detached, objective and prone to treat each other as objects which can be manipulated. Through of our detachment, objectivity and manipulations; we keep from knowing each other and so our ignorance, fear and alienation inter-breed and undermine intimacy, love and knowledge. Intimacy, love and knowledge liberate people; and free the from the bondages of ignorance, fear and alienation. People who are dominated by ignorance, fear and alienation are imprisoned by them. People who honestly know each other are liberated by their knowledge and love, in integrative personal and communal relationships. Intimate personal relationships are as unique as are the people who participate in them. Conventional relationships which conform to traditional expectations, anticipations, requirements, regulations, prohibitions and taboos seek security in approved uniformity. True lovers seek to know themselves and each other as unique beings---by being open and honest with themselves and each other in unique relationships which have integrity---because the relationships are fitting to their unique ways of honestly being themselves. To know some thing, relationship, concept, person, joy, fear, satisfaction, or other reality one must be honestly and openly involved with it. Fearful detachment leads to ignorance and alienation. Secure involvement leads to knowledge and understanding. There is no end to the cycles of inter-connections in an integration and disintegration. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================