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  %HIDDEN ROOTS HUMAN CHILD ADULT MOTIVATION ADDICT 910318

     Often the roots of human motivation may reasonably be
seen  as   the hidden efforts of an adult child trying  to
finish the  unfinished business of a painful childhood  of
trying  to   survive in a dysfunctional family  of  origin
which   was  dominated  by the unfinished business  of  an
even   earlier  generation  of addictive  and  codependent
relationships.

     The nature  of much of human motivation  will  not be
clear s long as it  is  rooted in  hidden efforts of adult
children.  What  is  hidden must become clear,    honestly
faced,     and  grieved;     else  the  adults   will   be
driven   by  hidden motivations  which   are  unreasonable
and   disintegrative.   Attempts   to   rationalize   such
motivations   in  terms  of sophisticated  considerations,
are  dishonest and contribute to  the  perpetuation of the
collusions,   addictions  and codependence which gave rise
to them.

     To  understand human behavior we need to look  behind
the  apparent  motivations of sophisticated people to  see
what root  needs  such people are trying to  fill:   needs
for affirmation,   acceptance,   affection,   love,    and
nurture.   When   such   needs   have  not  been  met   in
childhood,    the children's  sophisticated adults seek to
meet   the  un-met needs   in  sophisticated  ways   which
do   not   honestly acknowledge   what   the  root   needs
are.      Dishonestly  sophisticated   efforts  to  devise
technologies,    products,  procedures,  rituals and other
manipulative  procedures will not satisfactorily meet  the
hidden children's' needs.   The hidden  needs  can only be
met  when  they  are   brought  out into   the   open  and
honestly    dealt   with.     Sophisticated   hiding    of
children's'   needs does NOT deprive the  un-met needs  of
their    driving   power,     and   so   it    is     that
sophisticated  adult children are often driven to act  out
their childhoods'  un-met needs, without understanding and
without satisfaction.

     In   each   compulsive   businessman,     researcher,
teacher,   politician,  professional and religious  leader
there   may  be  hidden   motivations  rooted  in  an  un-
acknowledged childhood of emotional poverty.  There are no
technical solutions to the   perceived  technical  problem
of   controlling    the dysfunctional  behavior   of  such
compulsive   people.    The dilemma  is  to  find ways  to
enable  them   to   openly  and honestly deal  with  their
hidden motivations.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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