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 %PERSON TOOL ABUSED SALVATION LOVE GET GIVE ADDICT 910210

     It is  dangerous and unhealthy to regard  persons  as
possible means to salvation.

     The  person  who  regards other persons  as  possible
means  to their own salvation,  are tempted to abuse other
persons in their own efforts to use other persons  through
rape and other forms of abusive,  addictive, manipulative,
coercive,    controlling  behaviors.     The   frustration
engendered  by  the futile  attempts  to achieve salvation
through the use  of others,  is likely  to  be blamed upon
others,    and   such frustration  is  likely to  lead  to
more extreme  forms  of violence.

     The persons  who regard themselves  as  the  possible
means  to  the   salvation  of   others,  are  tempted  to
abuse  themselves  in their efforts to achieve  their  own
salvation   through  excessive  sacrifice  and   unhealthy
service  in codependent relationships with addicts.    The
frustrations  engendered  when their attempts  to  achieve
their  own salvation through unhealthy service  inevitably
fail, is frustration which  is likely to be projected upon
those  whom they have tried to save,  and such frustration
is  likely  to  lead to more extreme  forms  of  attempted
manipulation,  control and dishonesty.

     When persons  are  regarded  as  possible  means   to
salvation, the associated attitudes, beliefs, perceptions,
habits  and behaviors lead towards personal and   communal
disintegration.

     The persons  who  regard themselves as  the  possible
means  to their own salvation,  are tempted to lose  touch
with  others and themselves in over-estimating  their  own
power  to  heal   themselves  of their own  delusions  and
collusions.  They are likely to become imprisoned in their
own delusions and collusions.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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