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  %SAVE RESCUE HELP ADDICT SALVATION HONEST ACHIEVE 901130

It  is  important  to  recognize  the  difference  between
helping a  person  to do for themselves what only they can
do for themselves, and trying to provide salvation through
technical  procedures  to a person who will  not  honestly
accept  the  fact  that only when they  are  honest  about
themselves  can  they be honestly accepted as they  really
are.   Attempting  to provide salvation through  dishonest
technical  procedures  is  codependence.   Attempting   to
achieve  salvation through dishonest technical  procedures
is  addiction.   They are not mutually exclusive  of  each
other, and often occur together.

When  an  attempt is made to help another  person,   there
needs to be clarity on the part of both the helper and the
helped what the purpose of the attempt is.  Is the purpose
of the attempt to:

1.  Help play a game of mutual self deception?

2.  Conceal a truth which neither wants to face?

3.  Keep the helped person dependent upon the helper?

4.  Do   for   the  helped  person  what  they  should  do
themselves?

5.  Achieve for the helped person some form of salvation?

6.  Achieve for the helper some form of salvation?

7.  Make the helped person become o.k.?

8.  Make the helper become o.k.?

9.  Celebrate  some technology,  technique,  skill,   fix,
etc.?

10.  Demonstrate superiority on the part of the helper?

11.  Demonstrate   inferiority on the part of  the  person
helped?
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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