This is http://www.essayz.com/a9011061.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %KIND SUPPORT TECHNICAL EMOTION PERSON PRESENCE 901106 It is not kind to give the wrong kind of support. It is important to know what kind of support a person needs in a time of crisis. It does a person no good to receive technical or financial aid; when what they really need is personal presence and support. It does a person no good to receive technical or financial aid; when what they really need is personal love and affection. It does a person no good to receive judgements and advice; when what they really need is forgiveness and a sympathetic ear. It does a person no good to receive an explanation of an objective "why"; when what they really need is help in finding a healthy and integrative spiritual context within which to personally understand and cope with what has happened to them. Offering the wrong kind of support to a person in need can be very destructive. People may become addicted to the wrong kind of support and die a personal and spiritual death in the absence of the needed kind of support. People may die a personal and spiritual death in giving the wrong kind of support due to the absence of knowledge and wisdom regarding what kind of support is needed in particular times of crisis. Such is the case for codependent supporters of addicts. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================