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 %DISHONEST RATIONALIZATION COLLUSION ADDICT DEPEND 900925

     Addicts  and  their  codependent supporters  are  not
simple   minded;    they  are  usually  very  bright   and
intellectually  competent  people.   They  are   effective
manipulators of people's ways of perceiving themselves and
others,   and  so they are able to achieve some degree  of
control over how people behave by achieving some degree of
control over how people see themselves and others. They do
all  their manipulation in instinctive ways which are  not
open  and obvious to themselves or others;  it is a native
skill  which  is  NOT consciously  developed  through  any
formal program.

     The manipulative programs of addicts and codependents
depend  in  essential ways upon effective manipulation  of
the truth;  that which is true may be made to appear to be
false,   and that which is not true may be made to  appear
true.   People are manipulated through the manipulation of
appearances of truth and falsehood.

     The tools of addicts and codependents include:

     1.  Ambiguous tacit threats of damage upon failure of
others  to cooperate in the collusive games of mutual self
deception.

     2.  Ambiguous tacit promises of rewards  upon  proper
cooperation  by  others in the collusive games  of  mutual
self deception.

     3.  Rationalization   of   processes    of   ignoring
essential  truths  in  favor of less  essential  truths---
making  such  dishonest shifting of  attention  to  appear
reasonable.

     4.  Rationalization   of   processes   of    treating
questionable  truths  as beyond question,  while  treating
paradoxical   truths  as  obviously  false   by   focusing
attention upon contradictions and reductionistic logic.

     5.  Rewarding   people  who focus their attention  in
ways   which  divert  attention  away  from  the   central
embarrassing truths which the collusions seeks to avoid.

     6.  Punishing people who call attention the   central
embarrassing truths which the collusion seeks to avoid.

     7.  Weaving  the above activities into a fabric which
appears coherent, reasonable and worthy of respect.

     8.  Placing  masks  over those aspects of  the  whole
which cannot be made to appear coherent and reasonable.

     9.  Ridiculing   those   people  who  do  not  become
participants   in  the  collusive  games  of  mutual  self
deception.

     10.  Letting fear of the truths which they are trying
to avoid motivate and lead all feelings, thoughts, actions
and reconsiderations.

     In  a  paradoxical  way all the  activities  form   a
coherent  pattern which generates profound disintegration;
beginning with the disintegration of truth and progressing
through  the  disintegration of participating persons  and
their communities. As disintegration progresses,  more and
more  effort  and  creativity  must  go  into  making  the
disintegration appear to have integrity,  and to be worthy
of  respect;   and  so tension and disease  mount  as  the
ultimate   collapse  of  the  whole  incoherent  structure
approaches.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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