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  %RESPECT HONEST LOVE DESIRE KNOW OTHER INTIMATELY 900721

     Honest  lovers desire to know each  other  intimately
and will not permit manipulative considerations to inhibit
honest intimacy.  Honest lovers will not respect and honor
manipulative considerations which inhibit honest intimacy.
People who do respect and honor such manipulations are not
honest  lovers,   and there are reasons to  suspect  their
motivations.

     The   disintegrative   processes   of   addicts   and
codependents pertain to the breakdown of the kind of trust
which healthy people accord to honest lovers.

     In  the  disintegrative process the trust  of  honest
love  is replaced by PROCESSES WHICH FAVORABLY  ENTERTAIN:
dishonesty,  manipulation, deception, pretense,  delusion,
disguise,  falsehoods,  fraud, secrecy,  etc.  AND SO ALSO
THEY FAVORABLY ENTERTAIN:  suspicion, doubt,  incredulity,
questioning, rejection, distrust, challenges,  skepticism,
reservations, hesitation, and confusion.

     The   two kinds of disintegrative processes   reflect
upon  each  other;   dishonesty  reflects  distrust,   and
distrust reflects dishonesty,  each seeing its  reflection
in the other as the justification for itself.  Each by its
own nature justifies the other,  to the other,  by the way
it reflects upon the other.

     Each  aspect of the disintegrative process progresses
in  proportion  to  its mirror image,  and  so  the  whole
process  is an exponential decay process in which  entropy
and  confusion  grows  exponentially  through  the   decay
processes    of    disintegration;     integrity    decays
exponentially as entropy grows exponentially.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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