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%DYNAMIC DIFFERENT KIND DISHONESTY ADDICT TECHNIQUE 900718

     There  are different kinds of dishonesty,   and  each
kind  of dishonesty has its own kind of consequence,   and
its own kind of meaning.

     There is the somewhat accidental misleading statement
which  occurs  because of a careless telling of less  than
the full truth. If such dishonesty is not part of a web of
dishonesty,  it is not a matter for profound concern,  and
it means relatively little.

     There  is  the polite talk which avoids dealing  with
the  reality of differences of opinion to avoid  conflict.
To be polite people will be agreeable, and appear to agree
when they really do not.  If such talk which is less  than
fully honest occurs only occasionally, rather than as part
of  a  regular  pattern,  it is not a matter  of  profound
concern, and is not a serious matter.

     There  is  the intentional telling of a web  of  true
statements, carefully selected to leave other persons with
false  impressions by the (maybe subconsciously)   planned
and intentional leaving out of selected truths;  all  part
of  a design to manipulate others into believing something
which  is  false.  Such a pattern should be a  matter  for
profound  concern,  for it means much  regarding  possible
future  relationships  with the teller of such  misleading
truths.

     There  is the offering of statements of  questionable
accuracy  for  the  purpose of  misleading  others.   Such
individual  statements  might be looked  at  in  selective
ways,  and a reasoned debate be held as to whether or  not
the  individual statements were true.  Yet,  as part of  a
designed   web   they  are  intentionally  dishonest   and
manipulative. Such a web of misleading statement should be
a matter for profound concern,  for it means a great  deal
regarding    the   probable   disintegration   of   future
relationships   with  the  teller  of   the   questionable
statements.

     There  are  the statements which are offered  in  the
context  of  proffered sincerity;  yet are outright  false
statements  which cannot be reasonably argued to be  true.
Such  statements  are  usually part of  a  web  of  deceit
intended  to  manipulate another for  personal  advantage.
They are a clear sign of immediate danger to the integrity
of  self,   others,  and the community.  They need  to  be
confronted with charitable honesty.

     There are the self-talk statements a person makes  TO
SELF  and  which deny personal  involvement  in  dishonest
behavior,   and/or  deny  that  any  such  involvement  in
dishonesty  is  significant,   and means  nothing  of  any
importance.   Such  denials indicate an advanced stage  of
personal disintegration. They need to be honestly admitted
TO  SELF  AND OTHER,  else  personal  disintegration  will
progress out of control.

     There  are the statements a person makes to self  AND
OTHERS  which  deny  personal  involvement  in   dishonest
behavior.  Such statements indicate a more advanced  stage
of personal and communal disintegration.  They need to  be
honestly  admitted to SELF AND OTHERS in public  settings,
else  personal  and communal disintegration will  progress
out of control.

     There  are  patterns of statements which a  GROUP  OF
PEOPLE  MAKE TO SELF AND OTHERS to form a coherent web  of
deceit  as part of a serious collusive game of mutual self
deception.  Such statements indicate an even more advanced
stage  of personal disintegration;  for it  is  apparently
impossible for participants imprisoned in such an advanced
and sophisticated web to extricate themselves.

     Each level of dishonesty indicates a level of lack of
interest in honest intimate personal relationships;  and a
corresponding  level  of interest  in  manipulating  other
people's  impressions and behaviors.  When people are  not
interested  in getting to know each other honestly,   they
are  bound  to become trapped in patterns of  mutual  self
deception.

     Each  level of dishonesty has serious implications as
regards the practical consequences of people being  misled
by  particular  misleading actions.   Even  more  serious,
however,  are the implications of the addictive attitudes,
beliefs, desires, assumptions, values, ideals, etc.  which
each  level  of  dishonesty indicates.  The  core  of  the
disease  of  dishonesty resides  in  addictive  attitudes,
beliefs,  desires, assumptions, values, ideals, etc. It is
futile  to  try  to inhibit  dishonesty  itself,   without
dealing   honestly  with  the  core  of  the  disease   of
dishonesty.

     Dishonesty is a progressive disease and process,  not
a  static  condition.   Each level  of  dishonesty  evokes
additional  levels of dishonesty to cover for the  earlier
instances  of  dishonesty.  Dishonesty  is  a  progressive
disease  because  it  grows in proportion to  the  present
level of dishonesty.

     To  avoid  people's  suspicion we  try  to  make  our
dishonest presentations appear to be coherent;  by  trying
to   make   coherently  dishonest   presentations.    Each
misleading  presentation thus evokes additional misleading
presentations  to conceal the earlier dishonesty by  being
coherently  dishonest.   Any process which evokes more  of
like kind in proportion to how much of such kind there is,
is  a process of exponential growth---until some  limiting
catastrophic processes sets in.

     Dishonesty which is initially designed to mislead and
manipulate others soon multiples and matures,  and has the
effect  of misleading and manipulating the originators  of
the dishonesty.  To view themselves as coherent people the
originators of dishonesty must tell themselves lies  about
themselves, so that they appear to themselves as worthy of
respect; their own respect.  But at some level such people
know  that their self-talk is dishonest and not worthy  of
respect;  so they cannot honestly respect themselves,  and
so they have low self esteem. The internal tension between
the truth that they subconsciously know about  themselves,
and the lies that they semi-consciously tell themselves in
self-talk; leads them to become tense, nervous, irritable,
ill-at-ease,  diseased,  impatient,  and both out-patients
and  in-patients  at medical service and  health  recovery
centers.

     Manipulative  procedures which do not  honestly  deal
with   the  core  of  the  disease  of  dishonesty  cannot
effectively  deal with the medical problems of people  who
are tense,  nervous,  irritable,  ill-at-ease,   diseased,
impatient,   and  both  out-patients  and  in-patients  at
medical service and health recovery centers because of the
disease  of  dishonesty.  Dishonest technical  experts  in
medical  procedures cannot help to restore the  health  of
dishonest patients,  without first entering into open  and
honest personal dialogue regarding the core of the disease
of  dishonesty.   No level of technical sophistication  or
amount   of   technological  manipulation  can   helpfully
substitute  for honestly and charitably dealing  with  the
core of the disease of dishonesty.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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